Why Keeping A Band Together Is So Difficult

Music is one of the world’s most beloved and widely consumed art forms. It can do things like help us sleep, cope with a breakup, and give us the boost energy we need to focus while working at a boring job. But as vital as music is, most non-musicians ever consider how incredibly hard it is to create––especially when multiple musicians are involved. There’s countless books and movies about bands because there’s an inherent drama involved with a small group of people trying to take on the world and make meaningful art together.

While the drama surrounding bands can be entertaining from the outside, relationship complications paired with a growing list of challenges brought on by the current state of the music industry can be hell to navigate if you happen to be in one. Great bands break up all the time seemingly out of nowhere, but there’s always a hidden story behind what groups of musicians face and why they can’t play music together anymore. Here are some common pitfalls to avoid to keep the band together.

Money problems

There’s a lot to be excited about in the music industry right now, but most bands continue to struggle financially. We’re living in an age where your band could be racking up millions of plays across major streaming platforms and still be thousands of dollars in debt. Bands with decent followings still have the ability to make money touring, but being on the road for long stretches of time isn’t possible for many musicians. It takes thousands of dollars to write, record, release, and promote a record, and in 2018, earning enough money to break even is something lots of bands aren’t able to do. Like so many otherwise healthy marriages bogged down by the strain of arguments and concerns over money, a countless number of bands have called it quits over the years due to the same reasons.

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Lack of success

Another band-killer is an inability to find an audience. Music has always been competitive, but with the amount of incredible music being produced and released today, things are on another level. Most bands go through that awkward stage of making music for a year or two that never gets heard before developing into something special, but some break up before they’re able to get there. It can take years of sacrifice and frustration to find any success in music, and some bands simply aren’t able to stay together long enough to make it happen.

Relationship problems

Arguments, lack of communication, and competition between musicians have the ability to tear apart even the most successful of bands. The band dynamic is so difficult to navigate because it’s unlike any other relationship we experience in life. Bands are usually equal parts marriage, friendship, and business, which is why they’re so complicated. When fights and petty jealousies go unchecked in a band, it usually means that the end is near. If relationship problems in your band are getting in the way of writing music or performing, then the project isn’t sustainable.

Patrick McGuire is a writer, musician and human man. He lives nowhere in particular, creates music under the name Straight White Teeth, and has a great affinity for dogs and putting his hands in his pockets.

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  • TGR - June 28, 2018 reply

    You can add family commitments, egos, substance abuse, equipment woes,wrong choice of management, alternative career objectives and backup plans taking precedents for individuals. Marketing disagreements which includes the effort from each member, the band’s image and signage approval.
    That’s all besides production input.i..e . Lead guit complaining he aint cutting through enough, vocals over powering but the dude is adamant, bassist can’t hear himself and feels neglected in the mix, drummer’s snare is ill suited to the overall sound you want,,etc///
    It’s really tough so I take my hat off to any band out there who keeps it together and wish them all the success. It’s a real achievement.

  • Gavin McGuire - June 28, 2018 reply

    You have hit every note. No puns intended. Aside from the same last name. That is exactly write. I’m trying it from a different approach. Check out my contribution to the tune world. I call the Band, Trippnsee. I don’t know if we are related, cause I’m not a Human Man, but I will be looking for Straight White Teeth in the audience. Somebody with cold hands and a dog at there feet lol.

  • James Carbonaro - June 28, 2018 reply

    I go by the name: The More Balls Than Brains Band Sextet. Truth be told, it’s almost exclusively me. Thanks to Wendell, my recording engineer at Studio 400, I can play all of the instruments on separate tracks. Then my wife, Regina, & my friend from church, Frank, add the vocals to the lyrics of the songs I have written. While I’m essentially a percussionist, I can also play other musical instruments OK if given enough takes. I’ve asked other friends & relatives, who play better than I, if they want to be recorded. But so far, none of them have taken me up on the offer for one reason or another. So then, are there 5 other people out there who want to join me & take this show on the road next year?

  • Frank - June 28, 2018 reply

    Since I got back in The music scene in Montreal after a long hiatus. I’ve noticed these so called musicians are like in 5 bands at the same time. Really, you need to be in 5 bands !

    Any hoo, finding musicians has become a unbearable Task. I know it’s not just a Montreal thing . But seriously if musicians are gonna be part of the 21st Century, we need to work as a unit. And you wonder why the older bands are still together. Ya ya ya , they had their own turbulence. But at least they stuck it as a unit.

    That’s my 2cents 🙂

  • Kevin McClure - June 29, 2018 reply

    Playing in a band is exactly what you expressed. I played in several bands back in the 70s. Egos were always the demise along with the lack of talent. I for one joined the working world so that I could persue my own dreams of writing, performing, recording everything myself. Hey I argue with myself all the time, but I always win.

  • James Day - January 2, 2022 reply

    You have To keep your guys working. Keep booking gigs. Or they drift off to the next project.
    My experience is drummers and bassists are hard to jeep

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