4 Life-Saving Tips For The Introvert Musician

Sometimes (okay, a lot of times) being an introvert is exhausting. Everything going on in the world around us drains us, and when we can’t get that alone time to regroup and recharge, it can cause us to shut down, making it impossible to be productive. And that’s kind of the last thing you want when you’re trying to create your next masterpiece, am I right?

Listen, from one introvert to another, I want to let you in on a little secret—being an introvert is actually a huge advantage. It means we can intuitively tap into our audience, empathize, understand them, and create art that will help them feel less alone. And as a musician, that’s a huge advantage.

But in order to reach them, you’ve got to be able to channel those strengths. So, if you’ve been struggling to find that sweet spot, check out these career-saving tips. 

Practice, practice, practice

You may love being on stage, but maybe you find it hard to connect with your audience in person. Maybe you overthink what you should say between songs, or maybe your need to achieve perfection starts to take over, and then you freeze. Maybe you tend to shrink into the background a bit instead of owning the stage, especially if you’re naturally shy in everyday life. 

This is where practice will become your best friend. Think about something you used to struggle with that you overcame. I bet that 99% of that was through practice. Odds are you weren’t a natural at your instrument when you first picked it up, but through consistent practice, you improved. Would you have taken the stage that first week? Of course not! So why are you putting all this pressure on yourself to be a natural on stage, when you’ve never really practiced it?

A few tips:

  • During band rehearsals, resist the urge to act like you’re playing to an empty room and instead treat every run-through of your set like a live show. Imagine that your ideal audience is in front of you. What would you say? If you’re not a natural with banter, pre-plan it and practice that too. That way, you’ll have a pre-formed script to refer back to, erasing the pressure of coming up with dialogue off the cuff. Eventually, you’ll get comfortable and be able to improvise. 
  • Film yourself during practice. It helps to be able to really see how you move, sound, and interact.
  • Take it easy on yourself. You’ll continue to get better over time, but only if you keep practicing.

Social media is your friend

The music industry is all about building relationships, and social media makes it easier than ever to do this. The people who were once inaccessible—for example A&R reps, managers, venues, editors, etc.—are now just a click or email away, and the best part is that you can now “meet” them from the comfort of your own home. 

For all of those who struggle with networking in person, and the overstimulation that large gatherings and loud spaces can provoke, social media is a lifesend that has made it a snap to connect with others in your field. Not to mention, online networking gives you more control over your social interactions, allowing you the freedom to engage and respond in your own time.

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Just be careful not to get sucked into the dreaded comparison game. Yes, you have to use social media consistently to get in front of fans and grow your band, but if the people you’re following just end up making you feel bad about yourself, it’s okay to unfollow or mute. And if you’re prone to overthinking and comparing, limit the time you spend on social media or ask one of the other band members who perhaps isn’t so susceptible to handle that side of things.

Practice Self Care

Above all other tips, this one is my favorite and it’s also something that is crucial to keep in mind on a daily basis, so you can maintain your sanity and be your best self.

You’ll probably feel drained after a show or meet and greet, and that’s 100 percent okay. Don’t put pressure on yourself to feel energized afterward. If you’re an introvert, between the ongoing sound that engulfs you, and the amount of people you’re surrounded by, a live show is sensory overload, and coming down from that stimulation can be rough. This is when it’s time to take care of yourself. Sure, your bandmates might want to keep the party going all night long, and they might poke fun at you for not wanting to join in, but your mental health should be a priority. If you’re not feeling your best, it will without a doubt affect your work and can lead to further anxiety, insecurity, and even depression.

Here’s my advice—make it work for you. Don’t think that you have to do what everyone else is doing. You’ll only be successful if you find a rhythm and routine that works for you. Otherwise, you’ll end up burning out and quitting.

So, how do you make it work for you? Think about the environments you thrive in. For instance, if you’re a solo artist, this may look like playing intimate coffee shop shows instead of higher cap venues. Bonus: you get to meet and interact with your fans in a way that’s going to build much more meaningful relationships and feel comfortable and organic to you. 

Maintaining a daily self-care routine will also be important as touring resumes. There may not be many opportunities for you to have your alone time and mental space when you’re on the road and sharing vans and tiny motel rooms with your bandmates, so find small ways to “escape.” Wake up a half-hour early to meditate or read a chapter of your favorite book. Or drink your coffee outside as the birds sing their own songs. Take a few extra minutes in the bathroom if you have to. Whatever self-care looks like to you, do it. It will only benefit you in the long run.

Find Your People

So many creatives are introverted, including some of the most legendary music icons of all time. I bet you already have so many musician friends who are introverts and you don’t even know it! Heck, they might not even realize it themselves!

As an introvert myself, I know how valuable it is to have friends who share those same tendencies because the pressure is off. You don’t have to explain yourself for being quieter one day than another, you don’t have to feel like you have to talk when you don’t want to, or can’t, even. Find your people. The ones who understand you and will respect your space and boundaries without question.

If you’re in a band full of extroverts, you’ll find it beyond valuable to gather a group of fellow introverted performers who you can turn to for advice and relate to. Likewise, if you’re a solo artist, meeting other introverted solo artists will help you in not only feeling less alone, but you’ll also be able to swap tips for thriving as an introvert in the music industry. How cool is that? 

While some days being an introvert might feel like a challenge, and leave you wishing that you could just find the energy that everyone else seems to have, embrace it. Recognize it for all the benefits it provides, and the unique ability and perspective it gives you in being able to relate to and connect with your audience. 

There are a lot of us introverts out there, and from one introvert to another, I’m telling you, you’re going to change lives. You just have to trust yourself, embrace who you really are, and let it work its magic.

Erica D’Aurora is a senior publicist with Muddy Paw PR. She finds her greatest joy in helping artists achieve their dreams.

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  • Rob Roper - June 23, 2021 reply

    Most of my between-song banter is written and rehearsed before the gig. I view it like a comedien that writes and rehearses their jokes. I work on the timing and the delivery. It appears spontaneous to the audience, but it’s not. But I also will say some spontaneous things as well if they come to me.

    The day after a gig, I treat myself to a sushi dinner. With a book. Not with friends.

    A.M. - June 25, 2021 reply

    That’s not too bad. I am pretty shy, but I think that onstage I would just wing it and be OK. I don’t know though because I’ve never played onstage except once at college.

  • Bilal Yasin El-Amin - June 23, 2021 reply

    Great advice. Thanks.

  • Mudslide Morris - June 24, 2021 reply

    Thank you for such a sensitive and well thought-out piece- I don’t find it easy being in front of a band and would agree that rehearsing set lines really helps, even if it’s just introducing the next song with some background

  • Malou Beauvoir - June 24, 2021 reply

    I totally relate to what you are saying! Before a gig and in life in general, alone time is crucial otherwise I get moody and anxious. After a gig when everyone is high on energy, My favorite place is being home alone with a big bowl of popcorn and a hot tea! On stage, I am told, I don’t come across as shy at all .. but I am .. terribly so! Introverts unite🥰

  • Jeffrey Herriman - June 24, 2021 reply

    Being an introvert is weird! I need space to recharge. One fault I have is when I have completed a performance, leaving the stage and getting a huge compliment from a fellow musician or an energetic person from the audiance, and I can’t respond! Weird!
    This happened last May, I took a breath and “smiled” with open eyes! Got through it fine and formed a friend ship! I didn’t think about it until reading the above. We are weird creatures!

  • A.M. - June 25, 2021 reply

    Wait a minute! As an “introvert musician”, I don’t HAVE a band. I don’t KNOW other musicians. I don’t PLAY gigs… I’m introverted, remember? I was hoping on some tips that would help me get past hurdles that this article assumes we have already gotten past. 🙁

  • A.M. - June 25, 2021 reply

    That’s not too bad. I am pretty shy, but I think that onstage I would just wing it and be OK. I don’t know though because I’ve never played onstage except once at college. I actually imagine playing a show would be fun–the talking included!

  • John - June 25, 2021 reply

    Very nice article. Being an introvert can be difficult as a writer, as we see everything for what it is, and weed out the clutter, which at times is the very thing you want in a song to round off the edges. It’s an interesting dance we do, but when we get it right, it pays off dividends.

  • Karen - July 2, 2021 reply

    It takes practice to get comfortable in front of people. Do what you can on a regular basis. Is there a weekly open mic near where you are? Thats how I got over it. Hope this helps

  • nekopoi apk - July 10, 2021 reply

    These tips are really helpful for Musician. As a music lover I’m also love it keep sharing

  • Charley - July 10, 2021 reply

    Karen, has the right idea! Put yourself out there as much as possible! Go to a couple of weekly Open Mics and make some friends. At first, I would visit an Open Mic without playing to get comfortable with the surroundings. If it was uncomfortable, I would never go to participate.

  • E.Ross - July 22, 2021 reply

    thank you this was excellent

  • Greg P. - August 25, 2021 reply

    Excellent posts, thank you everyone for sharing. I am an extremely introverted singer and have challenges singing in more intimate setting like small open mics where friends might be in the audience. You might think this would be comforting, but I do so much better with a huge band and 2,000 people in the audience. I feel more empowered when I look out and the audience is “anonymous” and I’m actually much more comfortable. I feel like a star and can just do my thing. I only had that experience once (it was a national competition). But it is frustrating because we have to start small to be able to get to that point. I’d be interested to know if any other introverts out there have had that experience? I am also so pumped when recording in a studio and sometimes think that singing commercials/jingles would be a great gig for me but have found that niche very difficult to get into (if anyone has thoughts or tips regarding that, please share!)

  • Jabbs - June 3, 2022 reply

    Studio time and live show time is like inhaking for exhaling for your lungs. When there’s too much outbound work, I feel exhausted and empty. When there’s no outbound work, I feel the energy accumulating in me and going nowhere. Life is all about balance, and maintaining the inner spark is vital to keep going and eventual success.

    Jabbs - June 3, 2022 reply

    Inhaling and exhaling for your lungs.

  • Curtis Lowe - June 3, 2022 reply

    I think we are missing the point here, if you are shy or less talkative that’s fine. The way to get over that is to write your music and words that are friendly or sad but not boring that invoke a response. Most of the time after I play my set, I can see the reaction and listen to what people say about this or that, and at that a great time to listen and not talk. What we’re after is tho blow away our audience to a point that they are moved emotionally and actually will go out of there way to tell you or someone else. So imagine if you were a magician and everyone is staring at you and you don’t have an instrument to hide behind. The trick is to focus on something other than the face of the spectator. Then you will not worry or be afraid. You can focus on the chandelier or exit sign. Practice hard, perform harder.

  • Oma Softspot - June 4, 2022 reply

    Thanks so much 🙏

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